Common Myths About Cuckolding
That Need to Go in the Bin
Hello my cucks, couples and queens, and everyone in between…
When I woke up last Wednesday morning, I was delighted to see that LADbible had written a piece about a recent YouTube video I released with Hotwife Alice, where we chatted about what life looks like inside a real cuckold relationship; from when they first discussed cuckolding together, to exploring Cucky’s bi-side, to what Alice thinks is the biggest misunderstanding about cuckolding.
So to see that LADbible had written a whole article, and in such a positive light too, is very encouraging for where the industry is headed.
You might want to read on to the end to find out the one thing I disagree with in the article. Keep scrolling...
Something that struck me while reading it was that cuckolding has really made its way into mainstream media now, which I absolutely love to see. Both from a stigma-busting perspective and as a testament to the work I’ve put in. To see more of the content I post reach mainstream media feels like a big win, if I’m being completely honest. I mean, the media giant is literally called LADbible, I’m pretty sure we wouldn’t have read about cuckolding on such a platform even five years ago.
Despite cuckolding now making waves, there are unfortunately still plenty of myths and misconceptions about our lovely, filthy little world. And that’s why I’m here: showing up in this newsletter, with my podcast, and on YouTube, because I think people deserve to explore their kinks and desires without the whole world trying to degrade them.
As the article covers from our YouTube video, there are the usual misconceptions: that one partner is controlling, or that it always has to be about humiliation, whereas Alice and her partner’s relationship is the complete opposite. As I say in the video, a lot of people assume it’s about one partner saying “you have to go and do this for me,” with the other quietly going along with it, rather than it being a proper conversation. Alice elaborates to say that it comes from sharing, not control.
Yes, there can be jealousy, but it doesn’t come from a place of insecurity or make him sad. For him, the jealousy is all part of the turn-on. “He gets a real satisfaction from a bit of jealousy and thinks, ‘Look at my wife!’” It’s all very equal and rooted in mutual respect. “There needs to be respect.”
The video also touches on the idea that society always portrays cucks as dweeby, geeky, or out of shape, when you can absolutely be hot, fit, and a perfectly normal human being in society. “We both knew we found other people attractive even though we’re in a relationship, which is a very normal thing!” Alice explained about the beginnings of their relationship.
Another misconception is that you either “get” this type of relationship or you don’t. If you decide one day to try cuckolding and expect your partner to have all the answers, or go in all-or-nothing, you’ll likely find yourself on a path that does not lead to a healthy cuckolding relationship. It takes so much communication, understanding, and development. As Alice says in the video, the morning after a night of swinging or cuckolding, they check in with each other: what they enjoyed, what they didn’t, making sure everyone is okay, not just sexually but emotionally too. Over time, they’ve built such a strong connection that they can “just look at each other” and know exactly what the other is thinking in those moments.
A myth we regularly encounter outside the cuckolding world is that it’s basically cheating, and that it replaces intimacy... and this could not be further from the truth. This one really makes me roll my eyes, because oh hunny, if only you knew the emotional intelligence and confidence the cucks in my academy have! Cuckolding requires explicit communication, consent, and honesty, the complete opposite of cheating and infidelity. As Alice mentions in our video, there is just as much checking in before and after as there is during all the fun and games.
If you think cuckolding is about betrayal, or if anyone has ever made you feel belittled or ashamed about how you could treat your partner within a cuckolding relationship, they may just be projecting their own cheating fantasies onto you. And we are not about that life over here.
The one small disagreement I have with the article is the comparison the writer makes between swinging and cuckolding. Drawing from our video, the writer concludes that hot wives are only there for the sex, and this is simply not true. While that can be the case for some people, it is absolutely not everyone’s experience. Some people will go out for coffee with the bull beforehand to build a connection, while swinging couples may go to clubs, hook up, and never see each other again. It really comes down to personal preference rather than the swinging or cuckolding label. The idea that swingers are inherently more sociable while hot wives are not is far too black and white; some cuckolding couples have even gone down the poly route, which is obviously about so much more than just sex!
On the whole, it was so refreshing and rewarding to see such a positive article being shared about a world that carries so much inherent shame and stigma. I’ve been uploading videos to YouTube for over two years now, so it’s a lovely feeling to see it reach new corners of the internet!
I’m curious to hear your thoughts on the myths and misconceptions; ones you’ve encountered yourself, or that those around you have raised about cuckolding. Or maybe this article gave you food for thought?
See you in the next one, where I’ll be going through what a regular day in the life of a cuckolding coach looks like.
Adreena
I think one misconception is that men who have this fantasy want to be femimized, or have some type of bi experience, and for myself, this couldn't be further from the truth…
If we accept the definition (which in itself could be a misconception) that cuckolding simply means that the woman has sex with men other than her primary partner, there is such vast array of possibilities. Yet people believe that the limited range of possibilities they can conceive of covers the entire topic.
It can be cheating or in can be consensual. The wife can have one boyfriend or she can have sex with strangers. The husband can be actively involved or not at all. He can feel humiliated and jealous or he can feel proud and empowered that a woman with such an appetite for sex with multiple men still chooses him when all the other men are gone.
Cuckolding can start as his fantasy or hers. I got introduced to the idea by a dominant woman, and it was a very intense experience, both erotic and emotional. Prior to that, I once was in love with a sex worker. Technically that could also qualify as cuckolding, since she was my only sex partner while she had sex with multiple men every day.